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Canadian author + speaker Christina Crook communicates about technology, humanity, faith & wonder for audiences and publications throughout the world.

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Christina Crook is the award-winning author of The Joy of Missing Out: Finding Balance in a Wired World, which has made her leading voice on human flourishing in the digital age. 

Through her speaking and writing, she reveals how key shifts in our thinking can enable us to draw closer to one another, taking up the good burdens of local work and responsibilities. She writes about the value of focus, making space to create, and the meaning we find in more limited connections. She challenges the Western values of power, control, and success, revealing how wonder, trust, and discipline are central to the experience of being human and the keys to our joy.

What Jean Vanier Taught Me

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Jean Vanier died this week.

His book, Becoming Human has shaped my life and work more than any other.

“As soon as we start selecting and judging people instead of welcoming them as they are... we are reducing life, not fostering it. When we reveal to people our belief in them, their hidden beauty rises to the surface where it may more clearly be seen by all,” wrote Jean.

Jean Vanier founded L’arche, an international federation of communities for people with mental and physical developmental disabilities and those who assist them. He did this in the belief that:

“Weakness carries within it a secret power. The cry and the trust that flow from weakness can open up hearts. The one who is weaker can call forth powers of love in the one who is stronger.”

He believed that through our vulnerabilities, being courageous enough to express our needs, we could create true community — relationships and spaces where people felt safe, loved and accepted exactly as they are.

Vanier cautioned against our obsession with efficiency. He warned that by choosing to rely exclusively on modern conveniences rather than on people - our neighbours, families and coworkers - we unknowingly cut the threads of community. We stop weaving relationship.

Jean Vanier challenged me to see the good of need and the way it causes us to reach out our arms to love.

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Let us be the ones who notice

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Let us be the ones who notice. Let's not check out for another single day. Let's live embodied, in person, in the flesh, in real life.⁣

The next time you have an urge to post something online, share it instead with a friend or family member directly. Call and tell them your story.⁣

📷: @patrickschn3idr

In Real Life

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Have you ever followed someone online and thought to yourself: that person’s super cool, I wish I knew them in real life?⁣

I'm kind of a master at turning online contacts into real life friends. In fact, that’s how Sarah Vermunt of @careergasm and I first met for a coffee in the lobby of a bank. Yes, it was as dreamy as it sounds.⁣

The web is an incredible tool and making contact online can lead to beautiful, incarnate relationships if we’re willing to step out of our comfort zones.⁣

Something I really love about Sarah is her commitment to pursuing what feels good — she’s built an entire business around it. Sarah leans into the life-giving. She’s also refreshingly honest that things don’t feel good all of the time.⁣

Here’s a snap of her and me at the recent launch for her new book, Career Rookie. We’re pretty damn happy to be friends.⁣

I even got to endorse her book. Now, that FELT GOOD.⁣

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Today I encourage you to invite someone you’ve interacted with online to connect in real life. Your long lost BFF could be just a coffee date away.⁣

Reclaiming Time: Prioritize What Matters Most

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“New is better. But these technologies come with an onslaught of unintended consequences.

Easy is better. But as machines do more work for us, we do less; we’re less capable on our own.

More is better. But as machines store and organize more, we get sloppy, forget our friend’s phone number, birthday, heartfelt concerns.

Faster is better.  But as machines enter our way of thinking, we bias speed itself; we lose our capacity for patience. Forget things take time.” 

- Geez Magazine, excerpt from The Joy of Missing Out


What do you want more than anything right now? Stop and think about it. 


Do you want more information? More belongings? More connections? Do you want more time for loved ones? More focus and energy for creative projects? More Peace? 

To make a significant change, you need a good WHY. Decide WHY you want more time this year. What for?

Your reason may be paying better attention to the people you care about, reclaiming time for a work project or hobby. Whatever you choose, it’s essential to have a reason because making the changes to get there will be tough. 

Chances are, what you want more than anything are more peace and meaning, more creativity and joy, not more hurry, more information, more stuff. 

Today, I’m going to show you one approach to removing the barriers in the way of building the life you want.

 

Today, we’re going to reclaim time from all the places that nibble at it in little ways that add up to hours of our day, and the places that create big yawning holes we climb into and emerge after spending way more time than we meant to or realized.


The first step is UNSUBSCRIBING to reclaim time.


Step One: Unsubscribe

First, tackle your inbox. Unsubscribe from all unnecessary email clutter. Even the good stuff. 

What’s unnecessary? Marketing announcements, newsletters, anything that isn’t A) a deliberate correspondence from someone you KNOW, or B) a notification with required information or a call for immediate action- a utility bill, a security notice, etc.

Basically, if you don’t need to respond to it immediately or it isn’t a person you know personally, and it keeps coming whether you respond to it or not, you don’t need it. 

This is a big deal. We lose a huge amount of time on unnecessary email. An annual digital clean-up can help you reclaim up to 100 hours a year. What would you do with it?


The second step is TURNING OFF NOTIFICATIONS to reclaim time.


Step Two: Kill Notifications

Turn off all notifications except those from people. Notifications appear in RED because it’s a trigger color that instantly draws our attention. But notifications are generated by machines, not actual people. They keep our phones vibrating to lure us back into apps we don't really need to be in. Visit Settings > Notifications and turn off all notifications, banners, and badges, except from apps where real people want your attention; e.g. messaging apps like WhatsApp, FB Messenger or WeChat. I also urge you to switch the notifications you keep to vibrate instead of sound- they won’t interrupt you as stressfully or rudely to the people around you, and they won’t annoy or bully you into responding to them. You’ll know they’re there, but you’ll be in control.


The third step is SPRING CLEANING YOUR SCREENS to reclaim time.


Step Three: Spring Clean Your Screens

Distraction-free screens are a huge advantage but they’re a big ask. Essentially, I’m telling you to remove functionality from your phone and other devices. This is especially hard when we’ve all grown accustomed to nonstop connectivity over the last decade.

I love Jake Knapp’s article: “How I Turned My iPhone Into A Simple, Distraction-Free Device.” I recently followed his advice and gave my iPhone a spring clean.  

I recommend you do the same. 

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(One of my "Whys" is reclaiming time to connect more with my seven brothers and sisters. We just started a WhatsApp group to connect across several time zones. In another blog post, we'll talk about adding in life-giving commitments.) 

The spring clean steps are simple:

  1. Get rid of social media, email, and news apps. Access these only from your computer. (Keep in mind that you can always check in on another device (ex. tablet) or reinstall if you really have to. A note about news: We love news but here’s why knowing more doesn’t help us: News, in fact, does not make people smarter, but it does make the world appear continuously less fair. 

  2. Remove every app you don’t regularly use. The visual clutter that probably currently exists on your phone makes it more likely that you’re going to get distracted with an activity that probably wasn’t the reason you picked up your phone in the first place.

  3. Hide the existing apps in folders. By making the apps you do use require several deliberate steps, you’re short-circuiting the “autopilot” habitual behaviors that have crept into your phone usage- pulling your phone out of your pocket or purse and swiping without even realizing you’ve done it. This step ensures you’re using your phone because you actually have a reason to.

  4. No more than 8 apps per screen. Besides the distraction effect mentioned above, a more organized screen will let you do the thing you came here to do more efficiently- and it’ll force you to make meaningful choices about what apps you really need when you reach your 8-app limit on a screen.

A distraction-free phone will help you reclaim margin for the things that truly bring you joy. 

In Knapp’s words, “When I stopped instantly reacting to everyone else’s priorities, I got better at making time for the projects I believed were most important—even if they weren’t urgent or nobody was asking for them… without those apps in my pocket, I have a competitive advantage over my prior self.”

That’s JOMO in action. 

In Conclusion…

I hope your first day full of reclaimed time feels good, uncomfortable, surprising, and new. 

I encourage you to use today’s three tips as a starting point- now that you understand the basic principle that things that tell you how to spend your time or short circuit your ability to decide for yourself aren’t real priorities, you can probably find even more time savings in your relationship to your devices. If you see yourself doing things without realizing them- and those things take you away from what you know in your heart you’d rather be doing or really care about- take control. Take action. Choose joy.

Cheering you on!

- Christina